The Best Man

The Best Man’s part in your Wedding

The best man plays a very significant and traditional role in the wedding. Whilst he may not be as involved at the outset in the wedding planning and preparations as the maid of honor is but he does contribute in his own way.

It is quite likely that the groom is less inclined than the bride to feel that it is necessary to have his best friend involved in every decision so the major responsibilities of the best man are performed either on the wedding day or in the few days just prior to the wedding.

The Best Man – duties

Planning the bachelor party (stag night), ordering tuxedo rental and returns, organizing the groomsmen, custody of the ring during the wedding ceremony and proposing the first toast at the reception are just a few of the responsibilities that the best man must carry out during a wedding.

The groom may feel that putting together the bachelor party (stag night) is one of the most important acts that the best man must do well. This party is typically a night for the groom and his friends to share one more night of bonding before the wedding. It was traditional for bachelor parties to take place exclusively on the night before the wedding and involve huge quantities of alcohol and women of doubtful character.

These days the modern best man tends to venture away from tradition in planning the bachelor party. As one of the closest friends of the groom, the best man is more likely to know what sort of activity the groom would enjoy and plan the time, location and activities accordingly.

The Best Man – wedding attire for himself and the groomsmen

Tuxedo-175-233 The best man also participates in choosing and arranging for the tuxedo rentals for himself and the groomsmen. The groom is usually accompanied by the best man when he selects the styles and colors of the tuxedos to be worn by the best man and the groomsmen. After the styles and colors have been chosen the best man is responsible for reserving, collecting and paying for his own wedding attire.

It is also the responsibility of the best man to inform the groomsmen of the tuxedo choices made and organize a time for the other groomsmen to visit the rental shop to have their measurements taken and reserve their own tuxedos. After the wedding the best man is responsible for returning his own tuxedo and if the bride and groom are leaving immediately after the reception for their honeymoon, it is customary for the best man to take care of returning the groom’s tuxedo as well.

On the day of the wedding every groom needs a competent best man to organize and co-ordinate the men in the wedding party. He should ensure that all of the groomsmen are aware of when they need to be somewhere and what they need to be doing.

The groom should not be worrying about making multiple phone calls every time there is a slight change of plan. He can simply call his best man and then trust him to make everyone aware of the situation and expectations. In general the best man is there to be the groom’s friend and help him to relax by alleviating his fears.

In addition to his pre-wedding preparations, the best man also has two very important roles during the wedding ceremony and the reception. During the ceremony the best man lends his support by standing beside the groom in a display of solidarity.

The best man also looks after the wedding rings during the ceremony until they are requested by the officiant. This is imperative because the groom is likely to be very nervous and may forget where he put the rings. Entrusting the rings to the best man, however, ensures that the rings will be kept safe and not misplaced, hopefully.

The Best Man – speech and first toast to the bride and groomTheBestMan-175-264

One of the most important responsibilities of the best man is to make a speech and offer the first toast to the bride and the groom at the reception. In this role the best man is not only offering his best wishes to the new couple but he is also expressing the feelings of all of those in attendance. While everyone at the reception may wish to convey their feelings of good will, it is the best man who is able to do so publicly.

In general the role of the best man is to support the groom and to act in the best interest of the groom. Although there are certain responsibilities such as planning the bachelor party, safeguarding the wedding rings, co-ordinating the groomsmen and offering the first toast at the reception, the biggest role of the best man is to be a trusted friend to the groom.

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